October 15th, 2014 12:00 PM
My mother has dementia and is 90 years old. My Dad is clear thinking and is 98 years old. They have been married over 69 years and are in good hysical health. They live in assisited living. Dad needs some personal care assistance and my Mum is unable to understnad this and accept it. She gets very agitated , angry and mean to the health care aides and to Dad while he is getting care. I have to be there all the time to diffuse the situation. They want to be together but I need to figure out how to make this work. The dementia makes her say things and do things that she would never have done. Dad often says he can't stand it and wants to move but she has been in hospital for assessment for 7 weeks and he misses her desperately. She wants nothing more than to be with him for the tie that they have left. I need to make this work.. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions for me?